Baby Registry Etiquette in Australia: Is It OK to Ask for Cash, When to Share It and Who to Invite
Nan wants to know what to buy, your mates want to chip in, and you do not want to sound greedy. Here is what is normal in Australia, with wording you can borrow.
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Short answer: yes, it is OK to ask for cash in Australia if you do it gently. Most people would rather be told what you need than guess, so a registry is fine, and a line saying you would love a contribution towards the pram or the first year is fine too. Share the registry when someone asks, or with the shower invitation about four weeks ahead, send it to individuals, and never make it a demand.
There is no official rulebook and families do things differently, so treat everything below as a sensible default, not a rule.
Is it OK to ask for cash instead of gifts?
In many Australian families, including those with South Asian, Chinese, Pacific Islander, Middle Eastern and African backgrounds, money or a card with money inside is the traditional gift for a new baby. In other circles people expect to buy something, and a gift card is a common middle ground. None of these is rude. What matters is the tone: say what the money is for ("we are saving towards the pram") rather than "please give cash".
A line that works: "Your company is the gift. If you would like to give something, there is a list here, and a contribution towards the cot is lovely too."
When should you share the registry?
| Moment | What to do |
|---|---|
| Someone asks "what do you need?" | Send the link straight away. This is the best moment, because they asked. |
| With a baby shower invitation | About four weeks before, on its own line under the details. |
| After the mid-pregnancy scan, to close family only | Fine, if Mum or your sister is already buying. Hold it for everyone else. |
| After the baby arrives | Perfectly normal. Plenty of people wait to meet bub first, and visitors always ask what to bring. |
| Never | In a group chat blast to people who were not invited to anything. Send it to individuals. |
A shower is usually held in the last couple of months of pregnancy, so four weeks ahead lands the list well before it. How showers are usually hosted is covered in who hosts a baby shower in Australia and when. The general timing rules are in our baby registry etiquette guide.
Who should you invite, and who gets the registry?
| Who | Send the registry? |
|---|---|
| Parents, in-laws, siblings | Yes, they will ask. |
| Close mates | Yes, when they ask or with a shower invitation. |
| Work colleagues | Only if they ask. A team collection for one gift is usual, so one bigger item on the list suits it. |
| Grandparents, aunties and family overseas | Yes. They often want to help and cannot pop round, and a link is easier than posting a parcel. |
| People invited to a gender reveal only | No. A reveal invitation should not carry a gift request. |
Who you invite and who gets the registry are two separate things. Invite people you would be happy to see, and send the list to those who ask or who have given you gifts before. If you want to include people who cannot travel, an online reveal works from one link: see online gender reveal for Aussie families overseas.
What should a registry look like so it does not seem greedy?
- A spread of prices. Muslin wraps, singlets and a bath thermometer, a few mid-range things, and one or two big ones.
- Everyday things. Nappies in the next size up, wipes, nappy cream. They always get used.
- Items from any shop. Baby Bunting, Big W, Kmart, Target, Myer, Amazon.com.au or a local boutique. You are not forcing people into one retailer.
- A short list. Twenty well-chosen things look considered; eighty look like a shopping spree.
Not sure what to include? Use the Australian baby registry checklist by month. If you want one link for presents from every shop, paste your links into the free Australian baby registry. Prices are in Australian dollars on the shop pages you link to.
How do you say thank you?
A note or message within about two weeks of getting each gift is plenty, and for cash, name what it will go towards. A text or voice note is fine for mates; a handwritten card suits older relatives. Keeping track of who bought what is easier with a registry that shows it: see how to track gifts and thank-yous.
Planning a reveal as well? You can create a free online gender reveal with the same family on one link, with no app for guests.
Frequently asked questions
Is it rude to ask for cash instead of baby gifts in Australia?
No, if you are gentle about it. In many families cash is the traditional baby gift. Say what it is for, such as a pram or the first year, rather than asking for money outright.
When should I share my baby registry?
When someone asks what you need, or with a baby shower invitation about four weeks ahead. Sharing after the baby is born is also common and fine.
Who should I send the baby registry to?
Close family and mates who ask, and relatives who live far away and want to help. Send it to individuals rather than a big group chat, and not with a gender reveal invitation.
Does Diaper Reveal's registry collect money?
No. It does not hold or collect money, so there is no cash fund. It is a free registry of presents from any shop, with no app or account for guests.
Can I put Baby Bunting, Big W and Kmart items on the same registry?
Yes. Paste product links from any shop and guests open the exact page to buy, then mark it as bought so nobody doubles up.
How soon should I say thank you for baby gifts?
Within about two weeks of receiving a gift. A message is fine for mates and a card suits older relatives; for money, say what it will go towards.